How many of us actually enjoy this cancel culture we currently live in?
Where you make plans, then decide you’re too tired, lazy, into Netflix, overwhelmed, stressed, etc to follow through with them?
It all comes down to your honestly level with YOURSELF - both when you made the plans, and when you cancel them.
Did you really want to get drinks with friends on Wednesday? Or get up early for a class on Saturday? Or did you want to have a quiet night in with Queer Eye on Wednesday night and you really wanted to sleep in on Saturday to recoup from a crazy week at work?
In actuality, we’re not living in cancel culture, we’re living in a dishonest expectation culture with OURSELVES. We feel this need to be perfect - a great career, a blossoming social life, a 14 step skincare routine, #shelfiegoals, whatever it is, we feel like we need to keep up with it. And this is nothing new - the phrase “Keeping up with the Jones’” has been in our vocabulary for decades.
We’re eventually going to reach an apex of this culture - where no one has friends anymore and feels absolutely alone because everyone cancels on everyone until they just stop asking. You all have that friend that has cancelled on you so many times it’s a running joke at this point.
But fear not! I have a solution. Of course I do, otherwise I wouldn’t be writing this article.
OWN YOUR ACTIONS. OWN YOUR LACK OF ACTIONS.
Get rid of the idea that you need to explain yourself to everyone. Get rid of the idea that you need to find a "plausible excuse” that is so believable it could be true. How about you just tell the truth?
The receiver of said excuse will often empathize. And if they don’t, it’s because they don’t care what the excuse is and care only about the result.
Stretch this concept into the work arena. Instead of putting your energy into why you didn’t do something on time or the way someone expected it done, how about you just do it. Excuses often just piss people off even more - mostly because they can see through it. And/or they just need the answer or task they asked you for to begin with.
Own your lack of actions.
This week test it out. Catch yourself starting to make an excuse and stop.
Have your entire text read “I’m sorry I can’t make it tonight.”
Have your entire email read “Apologies for the delay, attached you’ll find the file you were asking for.”